Well, we did
it. We successfully made it through our
first Joubert Syndrome & Related Disorders Foundation Conference. I was quite nervous about the whole thing –
not sure if I could handle it emotionally, especially after returning from an
11 day servant trip just 36 hours earlier.
All registered and ready for the conference to begin! |
When we
entered the hotel, we were greeted by the only other person I knew there, Jackie – the conference
chair whom I had been helping with hotel stuff.
She and her teenage son with JS gave us a warm welcome and pointed us to the
registration table where we received a goody bag and a binder full of information. My mom also attended and my sister came along to watch the kids so we could focus on the conference.
Our first
session was a couple hours later and it was a compelling presentation by someone
who shared views counter to what culture and medicine usually say. She talked about doing away with the term “special
needs” and about not devoting all of ourselves and our kids into the various
therapies. That all of this would
eventually make them feel like something is wrong with them and that we’re
trying to fix them. While a lot of her points made sense in a perfect world, I
found it strange that a room full of parents and caregivers of kids with special
needs were hearing her challenges to “the norm” as one of the first sessions. A lot of what she said rubbed me the wrong
way – maybe because it challenged so much of what I pour myself into – and I
got a little crabby for the night, afraid that I was going to feel this way the
whole conference.
So then it
was dinner and a some socializing over a welcome cake. We met a couple other families with older JS
kids and chatted a little before heading to bed. I was overwhelmed by being around other
families. “Is this or that going to be what Connor is like when he gets older?”
kept running through my head with every interaction we had. The range of abilities was tremendous –
everything that the literature had said was true – some people with significant delays in
almost all areas of development and some who appeared and acted fairly “normal”. Where on the spectrum would our little guy
end up? I cried that night (proud that I
made it to the evening before I shed my first tear!) This feeling is the strangest mix of fear
and hope.
On Day two
we heard several lectures – one as an overview with a focus on genetics and the
latest testing being done, another on disordered sleep in JS. They were both
quite interesting and given by doctors and researchers who you could tell really
cared about our kids and helping them succeed. Right now there are 21 identified genes that
can cause JS. Connor’s JS comes from none of
these, so we wait for more research and then more testing. There was also a great lecture from an ophthalmologist
on the various eye issues and research.
Connor has two of the most common issues – nystagmus and strabismus. We learned about a few additional tests we’re
going to ask our CHOP ophthalmologist about.
Brent chatted with the doctor after the session and asked if he would
take a look at Connor later in the day.
That
afternoon we had a small group session with two other families and several
doctors. I must say the access to the
top Joubert Syndrome researchers and doctors in the world was a highlight of
the conference for me. Sitting and talking about Connor to a doctor who had actually seen and treated other JS
kids before was a treat! We chose the
small group with the ophthalmologist in it since that is one of Connor’s main
medical issues. He’s a great doctor from
the National Institutes of Health (NIH).
Also in our small group was a couple whose 3 month old baby girl had
been diagnosed with JS just six weeks earlier.
I couldn’t believe they were at the conference and holding it together
as well as they were. We’d see and talk
to them frequently throughout the rest of the conference and when I gave kudos
to the mom for being there with all of this being so new for them, she gave a
half smile and said “Knowledge is power”.
Friday, day
three, brought a good presentation on the Neurodevelopmental research
from NIH. From all the researchers, though, there
was a lot of “we just don’t know” as there are so few JS folks in the world,
their issues range so greatly and the research is slow to be funded and to
happen. The next session was a 45 minute lecture on Ciliopathies - not my thing and waaaay over my head. There's a reason I took Health as my physical science in college. :)
In the afternoon there
were various workshops to attend more “practical” topics. We attended one on iPad applications for
early childhood put on the by the PACER center in Minneapolis. What a fabulous organization and resource! While Connor is too young and/or delayed for
the apps they showed us, we hope that all these apps will still be around when
he is ready. The second workshop we
chose was on Applied Behavior Assessment (ABA) therapy. It’s obvious that a host of behavioral issues
are present for many kids with JS. I
feel like this workshop never “got there”.
She talked a lot about the philosophy (of which I knew a lot of already)
and never really applied it to life. So
a little disappointed with this one.
Later in the afternoon,
we took part in two studies that the NIH and the University of Washington were
doing at the conference. The first one
was studying the growth patterns in JS individuals. They took all kinds of measurements on
Connor, Clara, Brent and I. We met and
chatted with the head of the research department at NIH and she expressed an
interest in including Connor in their current research even though it’s
officially closed. All she needed to
start with was his brain MRI, so we were happy to get those records for
her! She is studying the variations in
the brain malformation of people with JS and seeing if there are correlations
between specific malformations and the person’s clinical realities. This is huge as it could help to give parents
and those affected a better idea of a prognosis for future development.
Best buddies |
Then we went to the
other study which was collecting skin biopsies on affected and unaffected kids. With a bit of coaxing, Clara agreed to give a
sample. I was bursting with pride over
her willingness. Just another example of
what a wonderful big sister she is to our little man. I didn’t realize how much skin they actually
take, so I was surprised, nauseated and heartbroken over what my kids had to
endure. Clara was trooper and barely shed a tear until it was
Connor’s turn. She hid in the bathroom
with the fan on because she didn’t want to hear him cry. And cry he did. Screamed like a little wild thing. But he was comforted quickly and recovered
nicely. I can only hope that their
contributions will help us and future JS families. I cried that night, too…overwhelmed and angry
that my family, my kids had to be a part of this. Feeling bad that I basically made them both
suffer through the biopsy, but knowing it was for the good of the cause.
To be continued...
Thanks for Sharing, Molly. I was worried you wouldn't go, but so happy to hear that you did and even made some new friends in similar situations! You are truly a strong Momma!
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